So when you usually think of weddings doesn’t an ideal come to mind? You think of a perfectly smooth ceremony, the bride perfectly calm and poised, the family cooperating peacefully, fabulous food and music, good company and vintage and cute decorations.
Then, I became a bridesmaid and my whole outlook changed. First, I never realized how family drama and DIY weddings could make the anticipated event so stressful.
First: Never leave out the siblings, even if they were only guilted into being part of the wedding. Include them to avoid hurt feelings and awkward moments when they’re about to cry for being left out even if it’s inviting them to go out to eat or something!
Also, if you’re conscripted into flower clipping, especially with roses please wear gloves! Speaking from experience, it can be painful handling dozens of rose stems. Snipping off those thorns is no party, I promise. Yet, it can definitely be a bonding experience and give you something to laugh about later, especially when you have to clean up all the stems and leaves that flew all over the kitchen. You need to take a step back and remember: you have no control over the petals wilting and browning. Even if they do, don’t worry. Roses have enough petals to pick off.
Another thing, if you’re working on venue setup, plan to get to the venue with the bridal party an hour early. We were running late with decorating and soon enough, wedding guests were pouring into the venue and we were still doing our hair, frantically pulling on bridesmaids dresses and slathering on makeup all while the videographer snaps close up shots of you putting on eyeliner. Give me some space, please?
Even in all this awkward though, I realized that the quirk makes you smile more than the perfect. When the bride forgets her veil and you remind her, you share a secret joke. The stress can frazzle your nerves but if you ride the waves of it, you can truly realize just how valuable weddings really are despite awkward questions about your relationship status (yes I’m single and no I don’t want to sit with your dorky single guy friend) family drama, scrambling to get ready for the wedding and everything in between.